It has always been important to me to have older gay friends. I was the first gay in my family I often felt like I was the only gay. As a teen I took some musical theater classes and met some older gays who really gave me perspective. Any young person who has grandparents or older friends knows how they love to talk about what it was like in their day. But those conversations helped me remove my own “gay” out of the isolation box and into the universal and I’m thankful for that.